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Commitment: The Key to Lasting Change

April 21, 2010

“Always dream and shoot higher than you know how to. Don’t bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.” William Faulkner (Thank you for the photo Eschipul)

As I sit here in my ‘study’, the weather outside is beautiful for this time of year, and could not be more perfect, I figured that since a while ago I realised a profound truth to real lasting change. In fact, any change and the success of any endeavour begins and ends with commitment.

There are many, many self-help, and success literature books out there, millions, if not over a billion books which have information  that potentially can change people’s lives. I have read far too many of them to say that I have suffered from the biggest issue which is the real falling point on many people’s success. That the most people who employ success strategies, or any other life changing endeavour, fail because of one thing; commitment.

By committing to change, really deciding, to give this change a shot with, one hundred percent of yourself, will leave the biggest impact. A life changing impact. However, before you even think about committing to change one aspect of your life, you must fully realise and understand the magnitude of that said commitment.

The mistake I made by commiting to become more productive really didn’t work after the month simply because it was in fact, not really an area that needed as much improvement as other areas. More importantly it was not really in line with my values, and really I was just copying someone else idea of what improves our lives.

What works for others may not work for you.

Change is personal, so when we commit to making that change, whatever it maybe, we first have to make sure in ourselves that its what we really want. For too long, I like many others was pursuing things that just did not resonate with who I really am, what I truly wanted, so as a result, the commitment was pretty non-existent and change never really came about.

Before deciding to change, really think about what it is that you really want. Even a little bit of suggestion from anywhere, be it marketing, advertisements, people around you, films you watch, the television shows really can screw with your mind. External desires tend to be a mild state of hypnosis, in which the mind believes it really wants something. Do you really want that Xbox 360 game? Or new Ford Fiesta in lime green? Really? Probably not.

Therefore, if you want to change your finances, lifestyle, health, fitness, eating habits,  then realise that the true wealth does not come from having things, but by being the person you truly want to be.

For a long time, I felt that if I had a successful business, earning lots of money, going travelling, driving a nice car, then I would feel important, loved, admired, appreciated. However, guess what? I have come to realisation that they are just symbols of the person I really just wanted to be. I wanted to feel like a success. That is what nearly all of us in one way or another are searching for. To be more accurate we wanted to feel Love.

On many different levels, that warm feeling, that we get whilst doing things, or being around certain people, having certain things, all boil down to generating that single most desired feeling.  That’s what we’re really after.

So in chasing money and success, its really the desire to feel love, and be loved by others. Admired by others.

In coming to realise this, we can then think, well, what type of person has this kind of life that we so strongly desire. What would they be like, how would they act, how would they interact with people, what would they be like to be around? What would it feel like?

Your life is not about what you have, its not about what you do, its about what you are. Think about that. All the people who are loved, admired, successful, what kind a person are they like?

So, coming back to the beginning of this post, what are you committing to? Its to really become the person who you want to become, and that does not come easily, as breaking and forming new habits takes continuous effort, concious awareness of what we’re doing. Self-help information is abundant today as it ever has been, but the crux of real lasting change is down to YOU.

So if you want to make real lasting change to your life, to become the person who you’ve always dreamed of, you have to fully and 100% commit to making that change happen, which will only work is you’re going after something which your heart truly wants.

So, before I leave, I want to give you this one thing: If you are deciding on pursuing a life changing endeavour (that means anything you want to improve), firstly, question your motives, and keep asking why, if your motives are strong enough you’ll stay committed to literally anything that you set yourself to change.

Thanks for reading.

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